I am so pleased to start off the blog tour for Jennifer Gilmour’s new book, Clipped Wings. This incredible project, organised by Jennifer, is a collection of stories written by domestic abuse survivors that shows what goes on behind closed doors. Below is my review of the book, followed by the synopsis and author bio. I wish Jennifer all the best for her book launch!
My review for Clipped Wings
This is an incredibly emotional book written by domestic abuse survivors, their own stories in their own words. Jennifer has put together this collection of stories, including her own, to bring awareness of what it’s like to live in an abusive situation. More importantly, many of these stories answer that often repeated question: why doesn’t she/he just leave?
As you will read, there are many reasons why a person remains in an abusive relationship, but the biggest one is fear. Fear that they will be hurt, fear that a family member or friend will be threatened or hurt, fear that their children will be in danger. For many, the thought of leaving their children behind in the hands of the abuser will make them stay, even though their own lives may be in danger.
These stories aren’t easy to read, you may have to step back from the book every now and then and have a break, but please do read them. These people have actually experienced everything you are reading and have found the courage to share their stories with the world, in the hope that it will help other women in similar situations. It’s hard to believe that a person can be so cruel to another human being, but unfortunately these things do happen, far too often. Only by understanding what these people go through can we hope to make a better future for everyone.
The men and women in this book aren’t domestic abuse victims, they are survivors. Against terrible odds, they have managed to get out of their abusive relationships and gone on to build better lives for themselves and their children.
Not everyone is so lucky. Too many women die at the hands of their violent partners each year. This is why it’s so important to read, understand, and help.
Thank you, Jennifer Gilmour, for allowing me to be a part of this blog tour and for all your support since we connected on social media. I feel honoured to know you, and all the other people just like you who are fighting to help abused people everywhere. – Helen Pryke
The silent chorus.
Just imagine you thought that you had met the man or woman of your dreams. This person was charming and you thought they were the one or perhaps that this was fate; it was just meant to be.
But as the months go by things start to change. Their behaviour towards you isn’t the same, they are more critical, more particular about your appearance, what you do, how you do it, who you see. Time goes by and you feel isolated from your friends and family because that behaviour has now changed to threats, maybe violence and you feel that your identity is all but gone. But still you stay. Where would you go? Who would help you? You are not worthy.
But you are.
A group of survivors have spoken about their own experiences. In their own words they show that survivors do have a voice and that it needs to be heard. They show that abuse isn’t unique or strange but that it is, unfortunately, a surprisingly common problem in today’s society.
The message of this book is one of courage, as with courage comes awareness and an ability to understand what has happened to you and take the steps needed to become a survivor yourself.
About the author
Born in the North East, Jennifer is a young, married mum with three children. In addition to being an author, she is an entrepreneur, running a family business from her home-base. Her blog posts have a large readership of other young mums in business.
From an early age, Jennifer has had a passion for writing and started gathering ideas and plot lines from her teenage years. A passionate advocate for women in abusive relationships, she has drawn on her personal experiences to write this first novel ‘Isolation Junction’. It details the journey of a young woman from the despair of an emotionally abusive and unhappy marriage to develop the confidence to challenge and change her life and to love again.
Since the publication of her debut novel Jennifer has continued to be an advocate for those in abusive relationships through her blog posts, radio interviews and Twitter feed. Jennifer also gained a qualification in facilitating a recover programme for those who have been in abusive relationships.
Jennifer continues to publicly support those who are isolated and struggle to have a voice. Jennifer hopes that ’Clipped Wings’ give’s a voice to survivor’s experiences and raise’s awareness further of the types of unacceptable behaviour which fall into the category of domestic abuse.